From my dealings with Tonya it’s clear to me that she has a number of Cluster B traits that span from narcissism, to borderline, to antisocial behavior. When I discuss things about my interactions I may refer to narcissistic traits or borderline traits or antisocial traits. That’s not to invalidate the others just to call out the specifics when appropriate. In short you can think of all of it as being lumped together under the term “toxic”. That’s why I’ve taken to referring to her as Toxic Tonya.

It should be noted that I am not a professional in the fields of neurology, psychology, psychiatry, human behavior, nor staying at Holiday Inn Express. I am not attempting to diagnose anyone let alone you or Tonya.

What follows here is a set of videos that I think would be helpful to review from time to time if you’re thinking of voluntarily dealing with her bullshit. If you’re her son, her sibling, a cousin, whatever you may be stuck. This field guide is based on my experience dealing with her lies, deception, manipulation, etc. You have probably had different interactions but your experience does not invalidate mine. Beware she’s toxic and manipulative, you have been warned.